parents just found a drawer full of unused barnes and noble gift cards & were like hey lily wanna go buy a frick ton of books IS THIS CHRISTMAS I’M WEEPING
When you discuss the wage gap, here are a few things to keep in mind:
- Only white women make $0.77 to a man’s dollar.
- Black women make about $0.68 to a man’s dollar.
- Latina women make about $0.58 to a man’s dollar.
I will keep reblogging this to point out that disabled people, including men, make 22 cents on the dollar. Mostly because it is legal to pay us below minimum wage, but whatevs.
all important, keep it in mind, self/others
So, here’s a thing I’ve seen happen:
- People get really into social justice theory
- and then they read a lot from people who all agree with each other
- and then they assume that everyone in that group agrees
- and then, when they encounter someone in that group who doesn’t think that thing, they don’t know how to deal with them
- or they’re rude and condescending
- Someone who reads a lot of disability theory is excited about the idea of acceptance
- And, in particular, the reasons that mobility equipment is liberating and wonderful
- And they encounter someone who is enduring considerable pain rather than use a wheelchair
- And then they talk at them about how they just need to accept themself already, without listening to where they’re actually coming from
- That is not respectful. It can sometimes be ok to express an opinion or offer advice (emphasis on offer; people can say no to hearing your advice), but it’s not ok to try and run someone else’s life, or to take control of their self image, or related stuff
- Respecting someone has to start with respecting them as people who think for themselves, not trying to make them do what you think self-respecting people do
keep in mind that:
- No matter how much you’ve read, you’ve never been the person you’re talking to
- That goes double if you’re not a member of their group, but it applies even if you are
- Having read a lot of social justice theory, or even being part of that group and having found that it described your experience, does *not* mean that you know better than someone else how they should be living their life
- Don’t try to take people over, and don’t talk down to them
- The last thing marginalized people need is yet another person trying to run over them for their own good. They get that enough already
People are complicated, and you are never the expert on someone else’s life. Reading social justice theory, and even being really insightful about what’s wrong with our culture, does not make you an expert on someone else’s life. Their life is for them to live and make decisions about. Marginalized people are not revolution objects.